How many times have you looked at someone’s goal or dream and decided that it was a lost cause that was not worth supporting? No really, think about it. A friend shares a dream with you that they are really working hard to make happen. They ask for your support in some way or another: tell someone else who might be able to help, contribute financially to a goal, make a connection that ends up being vital to the goal’s achievement, or whatever. Instead of being inspired by that friend for their guts or courage or outright boldness, you judge that their goal is too lofty and you don’t support them at all. You think that your contribution won’t matter because they have other friends too. You think you won’t get a return on your investment of time, money, or connections, so you don’t bother. But what if….
Lost Cause: Not Dodie Osteen
What if we all judged dreams to be a lost cause at the outset and therefore unworthy of our contribution of talent, time, or treasure? What if? I am reminded of Joel Osteen’s story about his mother, Dodie Osteen. She was diagnosed with terminal cancer about thirty years ago. She was sent home from the hospital to die because Man could not save her and because Man could not do anything with his limited knowledge, she was a lost cause. Hmph. Absolutely not true. Dodie Osteen continues to live today, thirty years after a two-week death deadline, not because Man could save her, but because she had champions to support her in her decision to fight. She had supernatural backing and the support of a few who believed that she could make it through. Those who chose not to write her off as a lost cause, but stuck it out with her, in whatever way that meant, to see her to her goal of being healed. Now she helps thousands, if not millions, of others to fight for their own healing. Her lost cause has led to the healing and strength of many.
I remember Jack Canfield telling a story of a young girl of four or five who was seen by her mother standing on a chair, bending over to receive her imaginary gold medal. What if that mother squashed that girl’s dreams by saying, “yeah, right, that’ll happen”? Would that girl have gone on to practice and practice until she became Olympic material? Would she have gone on to win that gold medal? We can’t know for sure, but I bet that the support her mother/family showed in helping her to fulfill her dreams would not have been wasted whether she won that gold medal or not (which she did).
Diagnosis: Worth the Fight?
How many people do you know with cancer? Many of us have been touched by it in some way or another. I was touched by a story from a stage-four cancer survivor, Joy Huber. Joy could have gone home and figured she was a lost cause. She could have decided that no one would support her in her quest to survive. She could have given up the fight. But instead, Joy persevered through the physical rigors of cancer treatment with the support of a few who were not so quick to write her off as a lost cause. Now, she is in remission and she is helping others to survive too. She has written a book called, Cancer with Joy. What if she hadn’t been supported in her quest? How many others would miss her positive message as a result?
Your Support Matters
Have you heard of the butterfly effect? Perhaps it applies here. When we support someone or something, even when it looks like our little contribution could never bear fruit, we cannot know the impact that support might have on untold others. That one contribution or show of support by you could lead to innumerable positive circumstances later. Not to mention the confidence or positive impact that support would have on the one with the dream.
Think on these things the next time a colleague comes to you and says they want to run for political office in your town (and you think they are too … whatever, to win). Think about this when a friend has a goal so lofty that they cannot even imagine how it will come to pass; they just know that when it does, it will change the lives of many (if you want to live your dreams, learn how at DoBehave.net). Think about this when a cute kid comes to you and says, “I want to be a firefighter” or an actress or a veterinarian or whatever, in order to better the lives of others. Don’t squash their dreams. Don’t assume that because of your perception of their situation or environment or short time frame or the state of the economy that it cannot happen. Avoid pre-judging. Be a champion of the lost cause and watch what your support can do.
Be blessed and manifest,
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